THE DO’S AND DON’TS OF DIRTY LAUNDRY
WRITTEN BY TAYO ADEBOYE
In this day and age I am almost annoyed that I feel compelled to have to write about such a matter; but it is what it is, so let’s keep the ball rolling. I’m sure many reading this have been made aware of scandals between boxer Amir Khan and his wife. So let’s talk about relationships and the timeline.
KEEP YOUR DIRTY LAUNDRY OFF THE TIMELINE! A couple of examples of this unseemly behaviour is Amir Khan and his public breakup with his wife Faryal Makhdoom, and also Katie Price’s public outing of her husband who was sleeping with her best friends.
Amir Khan; a former world champion boxer, has come to an abrupt end with his wife of several years Faryal Makhdoom. Accusing her of cheating with heavyweight champion Anthony Joshua, among other things, the feud has further erupted and all sorts of dirty laundry was disclosed by both sides.
Now in all honesty I can empathise. You are most likely angry, you’ve been hurt by someone you deeply cared for and your immediate reaction may just be to hurt them anyway you can. Acts of passion and all of that jazz. However, the moment you take it to the timeline or throw it up on Facebook, you become just as bad, if not worse than the person who has wronged you.
Imagine if a perfect stranger came up to you out of the blue and told you everything about your house; where your toilet is, where you or your family members sleep, which cupboards you keep the biscuits. You are probably going to feel some type of way; so why would you give the whole world keys to your private life? When you do something that callous, your life becomes open to the public and I don’t know about you but; my personal life is extremely personal. I do not want just anyone knowing my affairs so I keep it behind closed doors.
Katie Price; the former supermodel, outed her husband Kieran Hayler for having affairs with 2 of her best friends. Now I’m not saying what he did was right, but what do you gain from inviting the entire world to make a movie of your life? Just sitting back with popcorn watching the drama unfold whilst bantering the whole way through about a painful subject? They were able to work out their differences and continue with their marriage, however, the damage has been done. Kieran now looks like a terrible husband and Katie now looks like a joke for putting her husband on blast; so nobody wins.
What I’m trying to say here is that we all have those moments where we think out of spite, with our hearts more so than with our heads. The only people who benefit from the spreading of dirty laundry are the millions of observers sitting back as they ridicule you and those who did you wrong. By conducting yourself in such a manner you now look like an extremely petty and spiteful human being. Think about your future! Would you want to be with someone knowing they would happily post your private matters on social media if things go sour? I imagine most would decline this offer, so don’t blacklist yourself!
In those moments of insanity leave your phone at home and maybe take a long walk. As I’m sure you know once you put something out to the world it can never be taken back. I know it’s easier said than done, but please; think twice before you take it to the timeline. How others treat you is their karma. How you react is yours.